Does this ever happen to you?
You have a new program or product to share with people. You’re speaking with someone at a networking event or a client on the phone. Your brain is saying “This person really needs to hear about the new program or product. Now is the perfect time! Start talking!” But nothing comes out of your mouth. The words are on the way from your brain to your mouth, and they get stuck in your throat.
This is another video and blog post in my series on what you have to give up in order to go up in 2015.
Here’s an example from my childhood that I remember so, so vividly:
It was summertime. I was about eight years old. I was enrolled in a summer activity camp. Our big activity for the day was to go to the pool and to jump off of the high dive board. I was absolutely petrified at the thought of doing this but I did not feel like I could say that to my teacher. She was a super nice person; but I just couldn’t get the words out of my mouth to say “I’m scared and I don’t want to do this.”
We get to the pool. All of us kids are lined up. One by one, we go up the high dive ladder, out on to the end of the board and then jump into the water. Our instructor is in the pool under us, treading water. She helps each kid once they jump so it’s completely safe. Nonetheless, I am scared out of my mind.
When it’s my turn, I climb up the ladder. As I walk out to the end of the high dive board, I totally feel like I am “walking the plank”. At the final moment, at the end of the plank (whoops – the diving board), I finally tell her than I can’t do this.
Bless her heart, she was so kind and so warm. She keeps treading water. She reassures me time after time that it was going to be fine, that she would be right there, that nothing bad will happen to me. We go back and forth about this for what felt like half an hour but was probably only five to ten minutes.
Finally, I gather all my courage. I know I can’t go down the ladder backwards for safety reasons. Plus she’s managed to convince me that I won’t die if I go off the board.
I jump! When I hit the water, I go so far down so fast that it’s exhilarating! Then she has ahold of me and I fly right back up! When I come up, the first thing I’m thinking is “That was so much fun I wanna do it again!” Then the next thought was “Oh, but I made such a fuss and she spent so much time with me, I don’t think I can say that.”
I’m wondering if you might have a powerful example like that.
Whether it’s from your past or your present, is there a time when you felt like you couldn’t say what you wanted? Your brain was thinking about the words but it just got stuck right around your throat and couldn’t actually come out of your mouth?
You may be thinking “Well, yes but that was all in the past. That was years ago.” Just like my story, mine was decades ago. But here’s the thing, it can be affecting your business right now.
You know that you need to be talking to people. You are launching a new program, or product, or service. You have something you really want to talk to people about.
But when the time comes, when you’re at that networking event with your colleagues or when you’re getting ready to make a call on the phone, you get seized up. Just like I described earlier, your mind knows what you want to say but somehow the words just won’t come out of your mouth.
That’s definitely going to be holding your business back this year.
How? You will feel stuck. You won’t be asking for or receiving as much new business as you merit. You will end up doing more work that you DON’T like, in place of doing more work that you LOVE. You will earn less money.
Unfortunately, this situation is all mindset related. I’ve not seen anyone work their way through on their own, through self-study.
If this is happening to you and if you’d like to explore what might be involved in allowing your words to easily flow from inside your right into the outside world, then I’d love to have a call with you and see if we’re a good fit for going through that work together.
I’ve been through the process myself. Another benefit is that I don’t have anything invested in your decision unlike, say, your upline or your partner who might feel more invested in that. I’m happy to have a call with you and see if we’re the right match for this.
You can easily get in touch with me through my email: email@example.com. I look forward to hearing from you.
I invite you to consider a world in which you can say anything that’s on your mind at any time. It’s a beautiful place to be.